Lack of Brides

• a DISTurbing Article in WEEK magazine about UDUPI bramhanas [ in krishna temple and in egeneral karnataka bramhins ] !! and shocking statement from shiroor swamiji which is opposed by PEJAWAR swamiji !!!!!
• Article is about BRAMHIn BOys in udupi not able to FIND BRIDES ..
• Artcile in decembber 23rd WEEK magazine " where HAVE all GIRLS gone ? says UDUPi bramhins arefacing scarcity of girls and even though COOKS and preists are earning 60000 rs per month GIRLS find it demeaning to marry them ..
• there is an organisation kashyap seva kendra which took a delegation to delhi and convinced KASHMIRI pandits to marry their daughters .. but now kashmiri pandits have got incentives togo back to KAshmir so they have also rejected the prposal
• now peple ahve turned attention to UP and ASSAm but cultural diffrences are big botherations
• NOW when all attempts have failed ... it has been decided that its time for bramhis to marry other castes a move which PEJAWAR swamiji is opposing TOOTH and NAIl , his comment " BRAMHINS have unique CULTURE and tradition which will be diluted by Inetercaste marraiges " quotes VSIHWESHTEERTHAru
• SHIROOR math swamiji says " times are changing and we have to change with them MAINTAINING purity of castes might not be feasible in future " laxmiteertha swamiji shiroor mutt
• now lets begin discussion WHY this is happening ?
• Ramesh Laxmisan .. first why the dislike has crept in ....what conditin has lead to this situatin,,,, two what shouldbe done to change this situation , are swamijis in right direction ...? are we in any manner kartavya badhhd responsibility bound to change this can we change this ?
• female members do not feeloffended by this thread . some serioud discussion at hands
• now one study says while BRAMHIN parents are making their son a priest , girl goes to college has modern educationand seeks an equal partner who is modern educated and has free lifestyle urban living ...
• dekho viju ka jawaab "
• ek achche bramhani se shaadi karo aur bahut sare ladkiyaan paida karon that will be great help
• our society is not MATHa centric , matha is not SHASTRA centric , individual is MONEY centric ..
• while most peopel want to go to US .. under peeer pressure .. hthey think they will come back in 5 years time, whence their they forget original plan and again peer pressure green card hai ? where do you stay santa clara los angeles r miami .. so they get engrossed .. everywhere there is struggle .. BUT fancy has no boundary
• ji, is there an immediate solution for the plight of these cooks etc? What we are saying is a generational solution..
• yes for that i need to know and ask these cooks who earn 60000 rs a month , Do you only want software engg girls .. AREnt thger a poor bramhin girls in rural karnataka ?
• good question VS ... arent the people who advocate VARNA theory responsible ?
• expectation of URBAN LIFE who is inducing ?
• yesteryear generation struggled with madi and over indulgence in religious beliefs and made the upbringing of this generation modern , a seed was bowed that families with excessive madi and reliegious belief's is BIG NO NO ... and now it isstruggle for basic culture itself .. Isnt thatcalled degradation ?
• USHA number of unmarried girls into late 30's is very large in madhwa community .. why ?
• are there only SOFTWARE job doing girls only in BRAMHAn community and all are living in BANGALORE only ? i mean are other cities virtually devoid of girls bramhingirls , simple normal educated , arent they getting married ?
• VS parents of today are the same yester generation who have rebelled against madi , and raised their daughters in modern style , SO no use blaming them THEIR experiment has failed ,, and they are suffereing
• a daughter/ son unmarried is big dukha for a parent ! its payback time
• BUT statemnets that come from present UDUPI chief will bolster people into leaving dharma ... how can a statement be issued , isnt that clear lack of knwoledge on part of chief
• iN THE PAST when problems were placed BEFORE swamijis , howver impossible they solved it through KRISHna bhakti , but never left DHARMA .. BUT here peopel unable to SOLVE problem ARE ADVISING ADHARMA .. pathetic situation ..
• okay SOLUTION .. immediate is a campaign must be launched to bombardthe idea of good life [ remianing unmarried for 30 35 years for a girl is not a god idea of life ] i mean with what expectaion does a woman wait till 35 37 years [ unless untill teething issues are there ] to get good life partner ? what constitutes god life partner ? is sandhyavandan doing BRAMhan is better or globe trotting one ?
• two: some list is required as to who are those bramhans who fail to enlist themselves in matrimony sites and yet live in some obscure corner of karnataka .. GIRLS you are in demand has anyone told you ?
• three marraige is about having good offspring .. NOT about having URBAN life ONLY
• okay shubha ratri all ..
• if article has come up in national magazine one can imagine the GRAVE nature of PROBLEM ! some thjink tank in action solicited
• yes that is major problem .. mumbai girl parents do not want to marry outside mumbai ..hyderabad girl do not want to anywhere [ US is Okay ] bangalore girls are even peculiar they woudl even consider NORTyh bangalore and south bangalore residential area and wouldnot move [ BUT US is okay ]
• this primarily springs with a extreme fear that girls are opressed [ in the name of beliefs ] in families .. [ mostly all are staunch ] so would want the girl to be in grazing distance ..BUT reality si after MARRAIGE even the girl staying next gully rarely visits anyones house , peple are so engrossed in LIFE after certain times
• i reiterate marraige is not for comforts its fr progeny .. with anulma pratiloma , shraddha stops .. and ITS the person WHO suffers and also PROGENy ....
• 99% people who have married out face adultery issues .. WHY ? andmajority marraiges fail .. yes there will be silence , adjustmenst insome hosues but that silence will be that of grave .. HAppiness is technicaly not possible in uneven matches
• there are some crude truths that one must know before fooling oneself from outer presentation of happy married life to the world . and also onlookers must know that pseudo smiles do not tell realstory of aftermath of a UNEVEN MARRIAGE what are they ?
• why uneven matches cannot eb ever happy 1> the attarction of bodily felicity that forms root of such matches .. weare out within first few days of marraige itself [ if couples ahve indulged in premarital copulation they rarely maary ] because , physic
• 2> is loss of aura this causes defects like delayed speech or shaky speech and mental instability this acn be seen in pratiloma vivaha where man loses touch with reality .. [ look at all muslim stars who have married hindus , theyahve some defects of speech or other ]
• YES people have become hypocrites they want to be seen as successful and not bE sucessful .. and parameter for success is obviusly money.. BUT then that state of mind si temporary .. beacuse very soon one will encounter another similar person to ridi
• In anuloma marraiges girls find no happiness andin pratiloma marraiges boys happiness end s on day one he realises it that he has rhit aroad block the follwoing week and as it is pratilma lack of principles will be evident and usually teyh amrraige si
• these are not the days of absolute EMOTIONS where a personcan be taken for granted on FACE value .. so its usual in uneven matches PEOPEL donthesitate to go ut of way to seek happiness as the very nature of marraige is SELF pleasure
• child will always be an accident in suchcases ..
• KOI toh daksha prajaapti bano bhaiyya 60 70 ek hi innings mein
• why the line of thinking of either MATHADHIPATis or the members is not going in the directin of DOING a YAGNYA for solving the problem , why think socially only ?
• niyat patni does not ahppen in pratiloma vivaha ...