Get rid of wrong people from your life

• Queriest : I do not want to interrupt the flow of other lessons that you are imparting. However, I and I hope a few of others, need a practical lesson on how to get rid of wrong people from our lives. People who lie and deceive twist the truth and just never give up bothering you.
• the root of this problem lies in the fact that WE unknwingly out of ignorance are 100% sure and convinced that the BEHAVIOUR of other MAN / person is independent of OUR state of mind and KARMA
• once we SAY to our mind , THSI person is behaving THUS because I Am allowing him to do SO ! then you will stop bothering about what OTHER person has SAID or done and instead start concentrating ON where AM I failing ?
• teh answer is in ARANI PRAAPTI episode of MAHABHARAT ... having afced failure PANDAVAS dont react on their failure or inability or circumstances .. THEY introspect on what could have POSSIBLY gone wromng in their actiosn [ daily SADHANA over a period of life ]
• infact the day when indriya nigraha fails , YOU will find all your enemy designs get ACTIVATED .. so IS it any wise o BLAME enemy for having ACTIVATED attack or BLAMING self forhaving LOST INDRIYA nigraha ...
• IF one maintains NIGRAH , most of hsi problems LEAVE him from FAR OFF , not even knocking to tell I had come and have not troubled YOU ... but then ordinary person may feel he has had NO problems off late .. BUT in bad times [ when nigrah fails ] smaller to smaller problems aggravate and gatecrashes .. you become conscious .. some pierce us and cause wound .. here we get agitated
• OBSERVE two people talking .. one with holes in PERSONALITY gets attacked ... other one reejoies in attacking his chidras ..
• when no chidras exist ... the other person is conscious and remains mute ... he feels he is unable to talk .. he thinks but cannot talk ...
• when there are no chidras and UPON that MAN has AURA radiance , then other person does not talk BUT also does not even THINK ... he says I felt something strange meeting this person , he had magical effct on me , I could only think about him nothing else ...
• RISHI munis had SO much aura that their ASHRAMA exhibited property , even wild animals like LION wolves COULD not exhibit HINSA and lived a life of NON VIOLENCE ....
• so here we have two exremes .. one RISHI MUNI AND Other aspersonwith DEFECTS inside his own system .. itne ched shareer me ,ki pata hi nahi chale ke saas kidhar se arahi hai jaarahai
• So jahaan dekho baarish mein chata leke ghumte hain . apunkare to bola character DHEELA hai " there is no point in lamenting ... COVER your CHED
• SO first step is forget about OTHERS , be selfish concentrate on SELF
• IF you concenrate on self .. you will develop , if you will develop , the world around you behaves differently AUTOMATICALLY ...
• for self development extreme STRONG willed mind is necessary ... FOR strong willed MIND , exteeme desire to excel is necessary .. for such extreme desires to cme , extreme goals are neceessary ... for such extreme goals to be set good KNWOLEDGE is necessary .. for such clairvoyant knwoledge a good GODFATHER is necessary ... to get a GOOD GODFATHER , vinaya is necessary ... VINAY comes by bending the ego to serve ...
• RAYARU is best GODFATHER ... developvinay to serve HIM , leave ego ad do seva physical seva , pradakshjina namaskaara stotra paryana , day night ..
• The more vinay you exhibit MORE RAYAR anugrah will com
• if you do not bend your ego , RAYARU will aso not bend his kamandalu of DAYA
• FOR vinay to take full BLOOM . accept HURTS , ego bruises , DEFEATS , insults as ONES own karma .. [ GOD giving them to wash of sins ]
• humil,ity can be enacted ... VINAY cannot be enacted , it is displayed when one can smile at a person who abuses or insults and tramples your EGO
• VINAY easily comes by servinga agaed person , helping them in their daily chores [ without grumbling about their repoeated speech or forgetfulness or age related problems ]
• the very WORD HELP smells of EGO
• SYMpathy empathy patience , politeness , being nice , modesty are all external attributes .. VINAY IS internal atribute .. vinay is something that comes as spontaneous activity at the sight of an aged PERSON [ knowledged person ] , and making the other person part with ADVICE [ even if one know the essence of such advice , one listens to ucadvice wih utmost COnceeration ]
• duty boundedness and compulsion to discharge duty under all circumstances [ inimicla or beneficial ] is precursor to VINAY
• SUCH duty boundedness comes by OATH to live life according to NEETI
• when one takes OATH that i shall abide by DHAma and NEETI only ... so every action one il start to PONDER [ like if one si not related HOW shud i behave ], what neeti says here ...TAKE advice if you dont know
• a person wh has NOT taken such a Oath will form his own reasons to act in varius circumstances .... MOSTLY such acts will be selfish and self centred only
• THIS types of actions FORM the roots of al PROBLEMS in this world as more and more people act in self sentred way .. regulation of grop of people family organisations becomes a dauntng TASK .. one needs a leader / supervisor for all this [ hence importance for DANDA neeti ]
• now when you are surrounded by group of people who are self centred ... then the BEHAVIORIAL science takes precedence .. and one must RESORT to it only then one will not FAL prey to mindset " MRS dSOUJA mere saath hi aisa KYUN hota HAI ?"
• conventional neeti shastra PRESUMES you are surrounded by SELFCENTRED people .. and gives optimum behavior concepts .. FOR the snasrga of SADHU it narrates different code of conduct
• WHILE neeti gives you duty boundedness , DEVELOPMENT of VINAY will get youa GODFATHER .. his blessings will make youa STRONG person .. who is a STRONG person ?
• not the won who WINS everytimes .. but one WHOse LOSS is also AKIN to WIN is a STRONG person . BAAZIGAR
• so when you knwo this LOSS is actualkly your WIN [ when you are dhrida convinced about it ] YOU will celebrate more than the actual winner ...
• AND THAT is called as BEING EQUANIMOUS in WIN and LOSS and not by convincing yourself that okay BUDDY " HARD LUCK betr luck next time " take it in your strie .. taht is DUKHA only , it ahs pierced you mind so YOU cannot eb EQUANIMOUS ...
• SO nothing should pierce MIND ... how ?
• NULLIFY others ! dont allow their words actions to PIERCE your mind ... [ what is piercing of mind ... creating asthirta in MIND is piercing ... what happens when asthirta comes ,, MIND starts to BROOD over the event
• achieving a state where MIND does not brood .. is called sthirta
• how to make mind not BROOD ? do not prioritise that
• what makes things PRIORITISE ? EGO prioritises THINGS.. ASK it to shut UP
• BUT how does EGO forces and not shut up , BY GVING grief .. NOW one must get into habbit of NOT being in GRIEF ... SHOKAKOOL avastha must be waived OFF ... here one must seek UPAYA from learned .. and NOT treat ONES own cancer !
• one must NOT do self medication
• hence GODFATHER is necessary ... seek SOLUTIONS to grief
• once MIND is convinced all grief has solution , it will leave habit of being in state of grief .. [ that is called development of FAITH ]
• the more you ahve this ability , the more FAITH you ahve ON GOD ...
• at one stage MIND is not bothered about GRIEF at all , hence it does NOT FEAR EGO , EGO is silenced .. and MIND stops BROODING and then MIND is STHIRA ... and sthira mind CANNOT be pierced by WORDS actions of OTHERS ... people around you finding that YOU are not affcted by their word deeds get frustrated with you and STOP bothering YOU
• RAYARU is living GURU ... so you do not need another guru to assist you ! technically
• Arundhati Shukla Chiraani hope i have concisely answered your concerns
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• interesting will be the topic that when a person whoimplements the above written material and becomes successful , he gets into new problem ... that is when people start calling such PEOPLE [ who do not brood ] as INSENSITIVE ... SO how to tackle that ? do we really ebcome insensitive ? is it recommended by shastras ? or shal we have to live NISSARA life .. only ...
• the word "no hole in teh PERSONALITY " is a borrowed , in my college days , one THINKER used it
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